Ive been married for almost 2 years and i need some advice please?

He wasnt like this when we married but hes so childish and my best friend is gay who cares and he bashes my friend with rude comments not to his face though and says mean remarks about gays and s. Our life really sucks No oral and im into that alot he dont care when i tell him about it, maybe 3 times a month if that it doesnt stay up and i thought it was me but ive never had this problem with any man before, i think hes bi ual sometimes he talks about dumb stuff like s alot just weird comments I dont wish to type. He lies over the dumbest things like i went to subway forgot he dont like mayo and i told him id go get him another he said no its ok then hes mad at me later for it everyone makes a mistake, we fight all the time because he says nasty things to my 10 yr old daughter who is overweight a little bit calls her retard etc which Pi@@es me off badly, he treats his nieces and newphews like gold and mine like chit sometimes, i told him id cheat on him he said